Fashion Forward for Summer with My Sister’s Closet

Update your wardrobe with one-of-a-kind finds at My Sister’s Closet, eco-thrift boutique and social enterprise at Battered Women’s Support Services (BWSS).

As advocates of zero waste, eco-fashion and the thrift movement, My Sister’s Closet has a beautiful range of new and gently used clothing. All revenue generated from the sales of clothing help fund violence prevention and intervention services operated by BWSS which supports over 11,000 women every year!

Get your summer-style on with My Sister’s Closet!

Check out what’s in store with these beautiful inspiration photos from a photoshoot coordinated by My Sister’s Closet amazing volunteer Alexandra Louise.

With Spring blooming in the background Angela Ohana has some fun in a orange lace crochet dress and striped classic cut swing dress both from our boutique.

Beautiful photos by Cristina, @leviosaminds on Instagram.

Have special events coming up for summer? Models Debbie & Noe are ready for a night out in these special pieces. Photos by Rosa, @xrebirthofrosax on Instagram.

These beautiful pieces and more are available every day at My Sister’s Closet, shop today!

MY SISTER’S CLOSET

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1092 Seymour St.
Vancouver, BC Canada V6B 1B4

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This Mother’s Day, Give the Gift of Safety

Battered Women’s Support Services responds to over 11,000 requests for services annually. Many women who experience violence are mothers.

  • As many as 1 in 4 women experience physical and/or sexual violence during pregnancy which increases the likelihood of having a miscarriage, still birth and abortion.
  • 5 children in every Canadian school classroom have witnessed their mother’s abuse by a father or father figure.

“I witnessed my father beating my mother. Now as a new father, I am responsible. Violence will not be my legacy. Thank you Battered Women’s Support Services for helping my mom.” – David

This Mother’s Day, honour the mothers and grandmothers in your life by giving the gift of safety. Because safety changes everything.

 

BWSS Passing of the Quilt Celebration

On May 9, 2018, Battered Women’s Support Services hosted a very special evening for a passing of the quilt celebration at My Sister’s Closet (MSC). MSC social enterprise of BWSS, received a generous donation of fabric and worked with a team of quilters led by Bobbie (MSC volunteer) who created a gorgeous quilt.  The quilt was presented as a gift to our colleagues at Sage Transition House in honour of women.

BWSS is grateful for our collaborations with community based organizations throughout BC, in other regions of Canada and internationally. For us at BWSS, collaborations mean connecting with other women, building and sharing wisdom as a community. It also means honouring the important and diverse work that others are doing which strengthens our support of women and girls in our community and beyond. We appreciate the work that is being done for women’s safety, equity and empowerment but organizations who do so much with so little.

Sage Transition House remains one of our partners who provide critical response for women fleeing relationship violence. We were honoured to share this beautiful gift with them.

Quilting and Starblanket making is an incredible art and skill that has never ceased to exist in our human experience.  The usefulness of quilts has also contributed to their continued existence, creating warmth, strength and recycling materials.  The quilting circle continues as a place where revolutionary people convene, strategize and renew.

Here are some photos of the heart-warming event.

Margaret Harman, Program Director at North Shore Crisis Services Society

Margaret Harman, Laura Reynolds, Executive Director of SAGE transition house and MSC volunteer Bobbi Yoshihara

Misogyny Kills: From the Montreal Massacre to the Isla Vista Killing to the Toronto Van Attack

It’s been nearly 30 years since the Montreal Massacre at École Polytechnique in 1989, when 14 women were killed at the school. The shooter yelled: “I hate feminists!” before he began shooting.

In 2014, six people were shot and killed on a California university campus by a member of the “incel” community. His anger directed at women for not dating him.

On April 23, 2018, 10 people were killed and 16 others were injured in a van attack in Toronto. Police confirmed that most of the victims were women. As news developments came in about the man driving a van into groups of pedestrians, we learned that it was targeted gender-based violence.

My initial reaction, as I learned more, was fear. Fear for myself and other women who are just trying to live their lives. Moving through public spaces can already be daunting but knowing there are men out there encouraging each other to be physically violent to women, throw acid on women, and murder women on a mass scale is on another level.

People often dismiss misogyny as a motivation for killing sprees because the devaluation of women has been so normalized historically that misogyny isn’t even considered as a factor for hate crimes, which is to say it doesn’t exist.

The men who are mass killers are looked at as individuals rather than the product of the larger social issue of misogyny. Instead, the focus becomes their mental health, their childhood, their education, and/or if they were bullied.

But misogyny kills us, through intimate partner homicide, or murder of women who do not comply to the demands of men, sexual or otherwise. Hatred of women is not a mental health issue; it’s a fatal social problem.

“Incels”

“Involuntary Celibate” or “incel” was invented in the early 1990s by a Toronto woman as a way to define a certain type of loneliness and connect with others who were facing the same type of lonieliness. It has now turned into an online community entrenched with misogyny specific for boys and men who feel socially excluded and incapable to find love, sex or intimacy that they feel they are entitled to.

Incel is a sub-group of men’s rights activists, the movement of men based on the delusion of oppression, that somehow when women gain any sort of equity men are being oppressed. Incel forums online exist to normalize the resentment and violence, men encouraging each other to be misogynists and violent, and recognize those who make commitments to be violent to women as heroes.

Recently, the incel community has begun to express itself in the form of mass murder. Online platforms have long been more concerned with free speech than the literal lives of women, and the vicious, lethal misogyny of incels has flourished in these spaces accordingly. In 2014, the incel community encouraged on Elliot Roger who shot and killed six University of California, Santa Barbara students and injured fourteen others.

It’s More than Sex

In 2013, I wrote about male sexual entitlement and consent following the Steubenville, Ohio case of several young men sexually assaulted a young woman and shared it through social media. There is definitely a culture of sexual entitlement for boys and men, which is the belief that “men are owed sex on account of their maleness”. This revolves around the notion that girls and women’s bodies are objects that exist and be readily be available for male pleasure.

It is imperative we go beyond looking at this as “sexual frustration” as quoted in news articles. Men who perceive women as existing for their pleasure and conduct themselves as if they are entitled to sex choose to be violent to women as a form of power and control.

Some women have gained more agency over their sexual lives, and have pushed back against harassment, rape, and the objectification and dehumanization that often come with being a woman, and some men hate this. White heterosexual men feel threatened by some women’s increase in agency which threatens their sense power when it comes to dictating sexual and intimate experiences with women. They want to maintain control and use violence to make girls and women afraid.

Given that there was a mass murder in 1989 in Canada and now again with the van attack in Toronto, is this something we can expect more of?

According to a recent report, there have been at least 57 women have been killed in Canada  so far in 2018, all caused by misogyny.

Misogyny from Patriarchy

We must look at violence against women through an intersectional lens. Indigenous women in Canada are estimated to experience 2.5  times  the violence than other women which Amnesty International called a “human rights crisis”. Indigenous women not only face violence more frequently but the the violence against them is also much more severe. There at least 1,200 murdered and missing Indigenous women in Canada.

Immigrant and racialized women face particular challenges in reporting  violence due  to language barriers and racial prejudices.

Also, for  those  who  do  not  conform  to  sexual  and  gender  binaries, such as, lesbians, bisexuals, gender queer and trans people, violence is also multiplied because of patriarchy.

We need to hear more men speak out against patriarchy that not only affects women but also men. Let’s not forget that there is also a significant correlation between men who are abusive to their intimate partners and who are also responsible for mass murders.

“Male violence comes with various stories and names, but it has one underlining patriarchal belief system. We need to hold each other accountable so we can be better human beings. The majority of men’s groups exclude feminist teachings. The men’s rights movement is gateway indoctrination to incels and so it’s important for men to talk to other men about pro-feminism and how we all can benefit.  This is proactive work to prevent male violence against women”. –Irwin O.

“There also needs to be a systematic effort at deradicalizing those who are already indoctrinated. Law enforcement and governments have programs aimed at countering other forms of emerging extremism. Incels and other radicalized misogynists should also be targeted. But most importantly, we need to address the toxic masculinity that lies at the heart of their hatred”.-Arshy

“Men’s entitlement to women’s bodies is still very much a big problem. It’s a deeply embedded insidious idea that is taught to young boys and teenagers their whole adolescence through media and pornography. It’s built deeply in the structure and foundation of most of our economy and political system – within church and state, within marriage and law, within the workplace, the home, in sports, on campus, in education – the idea of private property came out of men’s accumulation of power within the family and the home and the assertion that women are men’s property”. -Ryan A.

What Next?

It would be nice to say that incels are an isolated issue, but they are not.

The vast majority of violent offenses are perpetrated by a man who the woman already knew rather than a stranger. But why is there so much public focus on violence when it’s done by a stranger?

We cannot, any longer, ignore misogyny, whether it is online, harassment, sexual violence or violence in intimate partner relationships –because it has deadly consequences.

Battered Women’s Support Services (BWSS) exists to disrupt misogyny and other forms of inequalities. Supporting women on the front line through crisis support, counselling, support groups, legal advocacy but also working for systemic and social change and violence prevention. Because, every day, women experience violence, it’s just not always in the news. Every year, BWSS responds to over 11,000 requests for services.

It’s time for more people to join the movement. Respect and equity need to be a priority and must to be integrated into every part of our culture.

 

Rona Amiri is the Violence Prevention Coordinator at Battered Women’s Support Services and brings her passion for women’s liberation and ending violence to the community in her work with youth. Since 2012 she has she worked with thousands of youth in Metro Vancouver on topics related to the prevention gender based violence including, sexual violence, dating violence, and online gender violence.

 

 

Legal Internship Oppertunities with BWSS

The Legal Services and Advocacy Program has opportunities for women law students to complete a volunteer-based legal internship at Battered Women’s Support Services. The responsibilities of the legal interns includes interviewing women, assessing and analyzing legal problems, assisting in resolving legal problems, assisting women to prepare for court, preparing documents and providing court accompaniments. Legal interns are supervised by the BWSS Staff Lawyer.

Legal interns must either be enrolled in a law school or have received their law degree. Additional training is provided to legal interns to become aware of the anti-oppression feminist analysis of violence against women, to have a basic understanding of family and immigration and refugee law, to manage and conduct research on files, work within the Legal Services and Advocacy Program, and to familiarize themselves with the overall internal practices and procedures at Battered Women’s Support Services.

Legal interns are required to commit for a minimum of four hours per week for a minimum of four months. This commitment does not apply in the months of December, April or August if legal interns are enrolled in law school and have exams during the specified months.

Applications are accepted on a rolling basis.

Please contact Harshada Desphande, Manager of the Legal Services and Advocacy Program, legaladvocacy@bwss.org for more information.