YOUTH SAFETY PLAN
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The following steps represent my plan for increasing my safety and preparing in advance for the possibility for further violence. Although I do not have control over my partner’s violence, I do have a choice about how to respond and how to best get myself to safety.
Name:
Date:
To increase my safety, I can do (some or any of) the following:
1. When I have to talk to my abusive partner in person, I can:
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2. When I talk to my abusive partner on the phone, I can:
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4. When I feel a fight coming on, I will try to move to a place that is lowest risk for getting hurt, such as: (at school) (at home) (in public).
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5. If I have ended the relationship, I can tell the following people and ask them to call the police if they see my abusive partner bothering me.
Teacher: _________________________________
Friend: _________________________________
Relative: __________________________________
I will decide for myself if and when I will tell others that I have been abused, or that I am still at risk. Friends, family, co-workers, and school personnel can help protect me, if they know what is happening, and how they can help.
1. I can tell my teacher, co-workers, boss, or a friend about my situation. I feel safe telling:
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2. I can ask _______________ or ______________ to help screen my phone calls at home or work.
4. When walking, riding or driving home, if problems occur, I can:
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5. If I use the school bus or public transportation, I can:
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7. I can also:
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For Myself
1. If I feel down, I can talk to sources of support, like friends, neighbours, a teacher, or crisis line. The people and numbers I can call include:
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2. I can attend a support group for youth that have been abused. Support groups are held:
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3. Other things I can do to make myself feel better:
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Safety During An Argument
1. If we have an argument on a date and I feel unsafe, I will (Who could you call to get a safe ride home?) (What would you do if left in an isolated area?):
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2. If we have an argument at school and I feel unsafe, I will (Who could help you?) (Where could you be safe at school?) (What teacher/counsellor/friends do you trust?): ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Safety in My Home
1. I will _____________________________ if he comes over and I’m alone and feeling unsafe.
(Who can you call to come over?) (Who can you call if you need help?)
2. I will _____________________________ if we get in an argument and I feel unsafe. (What exits are there in your house?)
(Where are all the phones that you can use to call the police?)
3. When he calls and I feel threatened I will:
(Can you screen your calls with an answering machine?)
(Change your phone number?)
4. If I don feel safe at home, I can go to __________________ house or ______________.
(Friends/family members houses you feel safe at and could stay over night if necessary)
You can download Personalized Safety Plan here.
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