Violence against women and companion animals is a stark, often interconnected form of abuse that reveals the abusive partner’s desire to exert control and instill fear. Abusive partners frequently harm or threaten pets to manipulate their victims, knowing the deep emotional bond between the victim and their companion animal.

This dynamic can trap victims in abusive relationships, as the fear of harm coming to their beloved pets becomes a barrier to leaving.

Studies have found that 71% of abused women reported that their partners had threatened, harmed, or killed their pets as a means of intimidation. This manipulation leads many victims to delay leaving abusive situations due to concerns for their pets’ safety. This cruel tactic not only demonstrates the abusive partner’s capacity for control and cruelty but also highlights the importance of providing comprehensive support systems that include protection for companion animals to reinforce pathways for victims to escape dangerous relationships. Broad estimates suggest that between 18% to 48% of female domestic violence victims stay with their partner out of worry for their companion animals.

Consequently, victims often face the heart-wrenching dilemma of choosing between their safety and the well-being of their beloved pets. Unfortunately, research also shows that many survivors delay leaving their abusive partner’s because domestic violence shelters often cannot accommodate animals, leaving victims to choose between their safety and their pets’ welfare.

In January 2024, British Columbia made a groundbreaking move in family law, becoming the first Canadian province to enact amendments guiding courts on determining custody of companion animals during separation or divorce. This change is a shift the perspective on pets from mere property to integral family members. Prior to the amendments, courts determined pet custody similarly to dividing other assets, focusing on factors like who purchased the animal or covered its expenses. The new framework, however, considers more holistic criteria, such as each party’s ability and willingness to care for the animal, the pet’s relationship with children, and any history or threat of violence or cruelty toward the animal.

In British Columbia, several organizations are dedicated to supporting companion animals of domestic violence victims, ensuring both individuals and their pets find safety during crises. BWSS works closely with BC SPCA Safekeepers Program that offers pet foster care for individuals fleeing interpersonal violence in the Metro Vancouver, providing up to six months of care with specially trained foster families to keep people and their pets together.

For many victims of abuse, the well-being of their pets can become a heartbreaking barrier to leaving an abusive relationship. Abusive partners often use pets as tools for control, knowing the deep bond between victims and their animals. Domestic violence spares no one, including the most vulnerable members of our families—our pets.

If you’re creating a plan to leave an abusive partner, you can also include your pets in your safety strategy. It is advisable to avoid leaving your pets alone with an abusive partner if possible. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, your veterinarian or call BWSS to explore temporary care options for your pets as you prepare to leave.

You can create a personalized safety plan tailored to your needs and those of your pets using our interactive online tool. This resource offers practical prompts to help ensure safety before, during, and after leaving an abusive situation. For additional information and support contact our Crisis & Intake line toll-free at 1-855-687-1868 or in Metro Vancouver at 604-687-1867.