Compassion In A Kiss World Premiere

November 25 2015
International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women

Sexual violence against women continues to be a prevalent social issue in Canada. While the majority of incidents of sexual violence go unreported we do know nine out of ten of sexual assaults reported to the police are by women and in almost all cases the perpetrators are male.

Local artists Claire Mortifee, Young Nige and DJ K-Rec teamed up to create Compassion in a Kiss to generate awareness about sexual violence against girls and women and to get men involved in preventing sexual violence. The music video, directed by filmmaker Jem Garrard, will be released in collaboration with Battered Women’s Support Services (BWSS) on, November 25, 2015 –International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.

November 25 2015 International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women

“Compassion in a Kiss is a project that is very dear to my heart.” Said singer Claire Mortifee, “As both a survivor of and witness to sexual violence, I am deeply grateful for the incredible work BWSS does to make the world a safer, more beautiful, and more just place for everyone. Together, we can co-create real change!”


Engaging men is primary to prevention –everyone has a responsibility for ending sexual violence. Compassion in a Kiss amplifies the voices of women and speaks to sexual violence and urges men to take a proactive role in sexual violence prevention.

Click here to watch Young Nige and Claire Mortifee share more about Compassion in a Kiss

Click the image above to watch Young Nige and Claire Mortifee share more about Compassion in a Kiss


“Compassion in a Kiss was a unique opportunity to align my feminism with my craft as an MC.” Said – Young Nige “Initially, I was concerned about addressing these issues as a man; however, I’ve since come to recognize that men’s voices are needed to challenge normalized misogyny and the consequent epidemic of rape and sexual violence. Of the work I’ve done, this song is among the pieces I’m most proud of.”

Battered Women’s Support Services is thrilled to be a part of this partnership, amplifying the voices of women, raising awareness about the role of men ending sexual violence and creating social change.

Claire Mortifee and Young Nige will perform Compassion in a Kiss with DJ K-Rec live at Breaking the Silos  at Terminal City Club in Vancouver, Coast Salish Territories.

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[su_row][su_column size=”1/3″]Claire-Mortifee[/su_column] [su_column size=”2/3″]What separates a singer from a soul singer? It’s a tough question, but Canadian songstress Claire Mortifee sheds light on the answer with her undeniable musical prowess, socially conscious lifestyle, and commitment to healing and self-love that emanates throughout her work.[/su_column][/su_row]

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End violence against women and girls



June-2014-Man-Up-400As part of the growing efforts to include men as part of the solution to prevent and end violence against women, Battered Women’s Support Services created the June campaign in 2013 urging men to own their role and help end violence against women.

Everyday young men and boys are taught that being a man means maintaining dominance through violence. Men have a vital role to play as fathers, brothers, friends, decision makers, community members and leaders in speaking out against violence and bringing attention to the issue.

Our campaign has focused on the impact that patriarchy and the term “Man Up” has on boys and men. There is a crisis in masculinity where boys and men feel they must maintain power through violence. The boy in the poster is hurt and instead of teaching him to find healthy ways of stopping violence society teaches him being a man means showing dominance and perpetuating violence to maintain their power. This year our poster features a young man holding a gun which illustrates the reality of how behaviours of boys are shaped within the culture of violence.


In light of the recent #YesAllWomen hash tag, the men in this video are owning their role and showing their support to end violence against women. While not all men are violent against women, many men choose to stay silent. That silence has allowed for the continued violence against girls and women. As Troy Westwood said “Violence against women will end when men end violence against women.” It is time for men to break their silence and be part of the solution! Patriarchy and toxic masculinity create a world where neither women nor men can live freely. YOU have the power to create social change!

Join our campaign and be part of the International Call To Men To End Violence Against Women. For resources on what you can do to help end violence against women, please visit here.

Don’t Be That Guy 2013

Sex without consent is sexual assault, also known as, rape.

On Thursday, July 4th, 2013, Battered Women’s Support Services has partnered with Vancouver Police Department, Bar Watch, WAVAW and BC Women’s Hospital and Health Centre in Don’t Be That Guy for the second time. Don’t Be That Guy – a behavioural marketing campaign sends the message that sex without consent is sexual assault. We are sending a visual message to men between the ages of 18 – 25, graphically demonstrating their role in ending alcohol facilitated sexual assaults. Don’t Be That Guy shifts the emphasis to men to take responsibility for their behaviour. Studies involving 18-25 year old men revealed that 48 per cent of the men did not consider it rape if a woman is too drunk to know what is going on.

The original vision for Don’t Be That Guy was a community collaboration in Edmonton, Alberta in response to recognition of increased reports of alcohol facilitated sexual assaults in their city. The community collaboration called themselves SAVE (Sexual Assault Voices of Edmonton) and their major partners were Edmonton Police Service, Sexual Assault Centre of Edmonton, University of Alberta Sexual Assault Centre, Saffron Centre, Alberta Health Services – Covenant Health, Prostitution Action and Awareness Foundation of Edmonton, University of Alberta Women’s Studies Program, Red Cross (Edmonton), Responsible Hospitality Edmonton and several community advocates.

Typically, sexual assault awareness campaigns target potential victims/women by urging women to restrict their behaviour. We know through our work at Battered Women’s Support Services and research confirms that women are, on a daily basis, taking remarkable steps to prevent victimization, and that targeting the behaviour of victims is not only ineffective, but also contributes to how much they, the offender and the larger public (including law enforcement and justice system) blame women after the assault. Here’s more information about Sexual Assault – Rape. The behaviour of men, including the sense of entitlement in regards to sex and access to women’s bodies is what is being challenged through this campaign. Don’t Be That Guy is urging men to end rape.

In order to effect change and end rape we must put the onus on the ones responsible for the assault to be responsible for stopping it. Don’t Be That Guy is intended to address alcohol-facilitated sexual assault without victim-blaming. These seven posters are appearing in restrooms in Vancouver downtown core bar district. Bar district staff are being trained to recognize and respond to situations of risk, to hold potential offenders responsible and to ensure the safety of potential victims.

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Battered Women’s Support Services has been working to prevent violence against women for 34 years. For 22 years we have delivered violence prevention and healthy relationships information to youth in middle and high schools in BC. Our Youth Engagement in Violence Prevention Program entails a heavy emphasis on “by-stander” intervention components, urging those who are silent and witnessing to become engaged participants to respond to instances of domestic and/or sexual violence. When we launched The Violence Stops Here in 2010, Battered Women’s Support Services urged men to own their role in ending violence against women. Last year we responded to 10,000 requests for information and support.

If you have been sexually assaulted or if you are dealing with violence in an intimate relationship call us at 604-687-1867 or toll-free at 1-855-687-1868.

The posters are available for download or email us at

Don’t Be That Guy – Urging Men to Own Their Role to End Rape

Media and Pictures from the Press Conference July 4, 2013


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Men’s Work—To Stop Male Violence

Men’s Work—To Stop Male Violence
by Paul Kivel

“WHY DO MEN BATTER WOMEN?” “Why do men rape women?” “Why do men stalk, harass, exploit and mistreat women?” To answer such questions we must first of all discard the easy answer:

“They’re monsters.” In fact, research shows that most men who batter, rape, or harass women are very ordinary and not much different from most other men. In all too many “normal” households, workplaces, congregations, and schools, violence is a common family secret. Nor are they crazy. Most of these men are sane, rational, and lead socially acceptable lives.

Read the entire article by Paul Kivel here.

The Violence Stops Here – Men Stopping Violence

3 Days Left to Make a Difference!!! With a Simple Click of the Mouse The Violence Stops Here! VOTE NOW!

If you could help end violence with a simple click of the mouse, would you? Your vote today could make the difference between success and failure of an anti-violence campaign that could change the way violence affects the daily lives of Canadian women across the country for good.

Battered Women’s Support Services is reaching out to YOU for your help to get votes for our vision —a dream of a world without violence against women, a world where no girl or woman has to suffer oppression, violence and abuse.

Simply go online to: and click on the VOTE NOW button to register your email address and vote to give your support to Battered Women’s Support Services Big Idea: Idea #6956 The Violence Stops Here.

As part of its mission for good corporate citizenry Aviva Insurance wants to promote positive impact in the community and sponsor a community project that is judged to have the most impact. The Aviva Community Fund will provide funding opportunities for local and national initiatives for change.

This year Battered Women’s Support Service is driving one of the only initiatives to promote the positive involvement of men as key in the work to end violence against women.

Three men are featured on the Aviva website. These are just three of the men who are willing to step forward and make a stand against violence like the many who are feature on our showcase site:


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We urge you to vote now and vote as often as you can. Only with your help can we make our dream a reality. Anyone who registers on the Aviva Community Fund website can vote during the Idea Entry and Semi-Final phases of the competition.

There are only 3 days left to make a difference! Please take the time out of your day this week and make the extra effort to vote as many times as you can for Idea #6956 The Violence Stops Here. You can cast all 10 of your votes at any time within each round, but you can only vote for each idea once a day. Pass the word onto family and friends. On behalf of the women and children we serve, we thank you for your vote and support!!!

The Violence Stops Here – Men Ending Violence

Re: Photos of teen’s rape by gang go viral on Internet, Sept. 17

By Michael Harris

As a man, I am deeply disturbed that the alleged rape of a 16-year-old girl by seven young men could take place and be recorded and shared with others on Facebook. What is taking place in our society that would make these young males think of drugging and raping the girl, recording the incident and making it public? What is going on in their networks of family and friends to encourage such actions? What type of video games and music are they accessing? Are they heavily into porn? What experiences have they had, individually or collectively, to let them believe their debasing behaviour is in any way acceptable?

As for the girl, I am concerned that she will suffer long-lasting emotional and spiritual damage. How does she go on with her life and keep trusting in her spiritual beliefs? When will she ever trust the company of men again? I pray for her complete recovery.

Our women and children are sacred. The courts and the federal and provincial governments need to work together to make laws with heavy penalties that will deter people from behaving this way. All of our governments, school boards and community councils — and, indeed, all of our spiritual and religious circles — must develop programs that will encourage our youth to respect and protect our life-givers and children.

Michael Harris


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