The Power of Support Groups at BWSS

by Rosa Elena Arteaga, BWSS Manager of Direct Services and Clinical Practice

At Battered Women Support Services (BWSS), we have been providing specialized support groups to girls and women who experienced gendered violence for the last thirty five years. Over 3,720 girls and women access our specialized support groups every year. We are particularly motivated to create new alternatives for the delivery of specialized support groups that address the complex needs of girls and women who have experienced multiple traumas. In order to support girls and women to break the silence, we have created a safe non-judgmental structure where girls and women find a voice, break isolation and ultimately heal. All our support groups are co-facilitated by trained members of BWSS team. Modelling equality through co-facilitation helps demonstrate how power can be shared.Modelling equality and sharing power is a transformational process that runs contrary to the power and control women experience in their abusive relationships. We are firm believers on the power of support groups and structures designed to provide emotional support, to provide education, to challenge systemic oppression, to address injustices, and at last affect individual and social change.

Over the years, through applying knowledge, we have developed specialized curricula for support groups to address the diverse cultural needs, the different forms of gendered violence that girls and women experience as well as to address the multiple trauma that women experience as a result of gendered violence, one of them being sexual violence. Of the women who attend our support groups, 80% report experiencing sexual violence either historically in the form of incest, as youth through date rape or within their abusive adult relationships. We have integrated different interventions and therapeutic practices in order to create a therapeutic structure that can be enriching and transformative.

For many survivors of sexual violence there is a strong feeling of injustice which can at times be overwhelming and can hinder healing[1].” The majority of girls and women who experienced gendered violence and who seek our support have endured numerous victim-blaming messages. These instances of victim blaming frequently morph into shame, guilt, self-blame, and —ultimately— secrecy. We have found that one of the main barriers for women survivors of sexual violence is “to defeat secrecy and speak out[2]”. In our experience, when women speak out they usually begin by sharing their story with a friend or a family member. More often than not, these people encourage the girl or woman to maintain her story “secret”. Once that a girl or woman is able to reach out for support she has already navigated a social structure that has shot her down, with all likelihood, more than once. Through our specialized groups for women survivors of sexual abuse we invite girls and women to explore what are the messages that people send about women and girls who have been sexually abused and how these ideas affect them. We invite the group participants to have conversations through a verbal and non-verbal process such as art therapy.

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In our work we are eager to integrate trauma theory, body work, art therapy, narrative therapy among other approaches. Our multiple approaches are designed to provide the space for girls and women to stand in their own power and to enter in their individual transformative journey.

At BWSS we are certain of the effectiveness evidenced through the different ways in which we are working with girls and women survivors who seek healing and justice. It remains true that women sharing their stories in the safe structured setting of a support group is a powerful way of breaking the silence and transforming women’s stories of injustice into skills and knowledge that not only contribute to the transformation of the women themselves but also to the transformation of ourselves as therapists, counsellors, support workers and volunteers and the larger society as women apply their new found or reclaimed skills into their lives with their children, families, co-workers and beyond. In our work as group facilitators we facilitate the re-telling of women’s stories by knitting them together and finding common themes that grow organically into a web of skill, knowledge, and expertise. This expertise has contributed to the transformation of individual lives, families and communities.

References

[1] Hung Suet-Lin and Denborough 2013, p.19

[2] Hung Suet Lin, S & Denborough, D. (2013), Unearthing new concepts of justice: women sexual violence survivors seeking healing and justice. International Journal of Narrative Therapy and Community Work 2013, #3

Read more about our 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence campaign:

International Day to End Violence Against Women in Canada

Culture Shifts Recognized as Women’s Group Commemorates 35 years of Work to End Violence Against Women

Women’s Leadership for One Future Without Violence

The Dynamics of Power and Control After Separation in Relation to the Family Law Processes

16 Steps for Discovery and Empowerment 

Decolonizing and Healing Through Ceremonies

If you could do something to end violence against girls and women, wouldn’t you?

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16 Steps for Discovery and Empowerment

by Daniela Escolar and Emma Ellison, Support Group Facilitators

 “Each step helped me look at my past life and understand what do I needed to do for my recovery.  People’s stories about me don’t fit anymore my internal story anymore.”

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This Fall 2014 BWSS began a new session of our 16 Steps for Discovery and Empowerment support group. Based on the 16-step model developed by Charlotte Kasl, this group offers a self-affirming, wholistic, and empowering approach to support women on their journeys of self-discovery, personal growth, and working through the impact of violence.

This group is designed to support women in finding more safety and power in their lives, expand their definition of self beyond the stigmatized definitions they may be carrying, understand internalized oppression, validate positive survival intentions underlying addictive behaviours, and explore preferred ways to meet these needs.

“I received compassion for my struggles. Gained more insight and self-awareness about why I think and act the way I do so I’m less confused and ashamed of my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors”

Women participating in the group shared that they hoped to find a space for open-minded and open-hearted conversations, develop their skills for coping with the impacts of trauma, and develop tools for managing behaviors that are no longer helpful.  Women also hoped to develop new tools to cope with feelings of pain, fear, stress, and oppression and increase their confidence, self-love, and personal power.

“It was a relief to be listened to without judgment and not being ‘rescued’.”

“I felt free to be vulnerable, becoming more and more comfortable with being myself, and being at the place where I’m at in this moment in my life.”

Every group begins with each participant sharing something new or positive that she did over the past week.  In celebrating these often unacknowledged acts of personal power in their daily lives, women affirm each other’s and their own strength and creativity.  Each week, participants discuss one step and explore how it relates to their lives and how it fits with their own sense of internal wisdom. Together, the participants and facilitators foster a flexible, creative, and open space for women to think for themselves and find their own path to healing and empowerment.

“The most important thing for me was that I’m allowed to affirm that I (we) will have the power to take charge of my (our) life (lives) and stop being dependent on other people for my (our) self-esteem and security.”

The 16 Step approach views women in their wholeness – mind, body, spirit, and within a social context – and holds each woman’s inner voice as the ultimate source of wisdom.  We start from the perspective that each woman is the expert in her own life, with innate knowledge, creativity, and skills to support her healing and guide her journey.

“I feel lighter, more aware of myself and hopeful in my journey.”

For many women, this is new and refreshing approach to healing from abuse and working through addictions.  Their skills for surviving trauma under oppressive and harmful conditions have often been overlooked, devalued, shamed, and stigmatized by mental health systems, treatment programs, society, and religion.  The 16 Step model offers a strength-based approach for women to understand themselves, their experiences, and their skills for navigating the world around them, which challenges dominant stories of guilt, personal blame, and condemnation.  Recognizing the amazing creativity and abilities that women have used in order to survive horrendous trauma brings a whole new perspective to stigmatized addictive behaviours such as substance use.

“I can put shame and guilt down and walk away from it.”

Women have shared that attending this group impacted them positively. The group helped them to validate and learn to love themselves; it normalized their experience; helped them to leave behind guilt and shame, understanding that they have done the very best that they knew in order to survive; process grief; have more compassion and understanding for themselves; reconnect with their bodies and with their chosen spirituality; and start healing broken relationships and feel hope.

For more information and/or to join 16 Steps for Discovery and Empowerment support group, please call 604.687.1867 or email daniela@bwss.org.

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Read more about our 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence campaign:

International Day to End Violence Against Women in Canada

Culture Shifts Recognized as Women’s Group Commemorates 35 years of Work to End Violence Against Women

Women’s Leadership for One Future Without Violence

The Dynamics of Power and Control After Separation in Relation to the Family Law Processes

Intrinsic to women’s empowerment, support groups at BWSS are made possible with the financial contributions from people like you.

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Women’s Support Groups at Battered Women’s Support Services

Support Groups at BWSS | 2014

BWSS Support Groups meet the needs of women who are or have been abused in their intimate relationships, women survivors of childhood sexual abuse, incest, and adult sexual assault. We design our support services to accommodate the social situations of marginalized women in regards to culture/ethnicity for women of colour or experiences of colonization for Aboriginal women. We also address situations of immigration, refugee experiences, sexual orientation, age, poverty and disabilities.

To sign up for a support group, please call 604-687-1867 (we accept collect calls) during our office hours or email supportgroups@bwss.org

If you need support outside of BWSS office hours, call Victim Link Helpline at 1-800-563-0808.

Drop-In Groups

Monday

Latin American Women’s Drop-in Support Group

Every Monday at 10-12 pm

BWSS Vancouver office

Tuesday

BWSS Drop-in Group

Every Tuesday at 12 -2 pm

BWSS Vancouver office

Friday

DEWC Drop-in Group

Every Friday at 5-8 pm

Downtown Eastside Women’s Centre

302 Columbia Street, Vancouver

Specialized Groups

Tuesday

Healing From Trauma through Empowerment II

Wednesday at 2:30-4:30pm

From September 9th to November 25th, 2014

BWSS Vancouver office

Wednesday

Healing From Trauma through Empowerment II

Wednesday at 5:30-7:30pm

From September 10th to November 28th, 2014

BWSS Vancouver office

Thursday

16 steps for Discovery and Empowerment Support Group

Thursday at 1-3 pm

From September 4th to December 8th, 2014

BWSS Vancouver office

Wildflower Women of Turtle Island Drum Group

Every Thursday at 6 – 8 pm, 2014

BWSS Vancouver office

This is the list of support groups offer at BWSS. Drop-in Groups are offered through the whole year and specialized groups are offered on seasonal basis or based on requests from the women who access our services.

If you could do something to end violence against girls and women, wouldn’t you?

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YOUth Ending Violence ~ Education Presentation Opportunity

For 20 years Battered Women’s Support Services has delivered dating violence prevention education.
YOUth Engagement in Dating Violence Prevention.
Co-facilitated by a trained young woman and a young man.

Anticipated outcomes:

• A better understanding of the roots of dating violence
• Types of abuse
• Healthy Relationships
• How to help a friend who is being abused
• Effective bystander intervention
• Safety Planning
• Media Literacy Skills
• Online/Social Media Safety

The length of the workshop is approximately 50 minutes. Two and four hour workshops are available upon request.
Book as soon as possible as our calendar fills up very quickly.
ALL THE WORKSHOPS ARE FREE
By providing relevant education to youth about violence in dating relationships we are helping to end violence.

FOR INFORMATION call Rona at 778.558.7179 or email yev@bwss.org

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To download poster, please visit here.

For more information about YOUth Ending Violence Program, please visit the program page:

 If you could do something to end violence against girls and women, wouldn’t you?

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Grupo para Mujeres Latino Americanas ~ Latin American Women’s Support Group

Grupo para Mujeres Latino Americanas

Todos los lunes 1:30 pm – 3:30 pm
Este grupo se reune todos los lunes y las participantes pueden unirse al grupo cuando lo deseen.

Este grupo ofrecerá:
Un espacio seguro para que las participantes compartan sus experiencias y obtengan apoyo.

Orientación para que las participantes desarrollen su autoestima y empoderamiento.

Conversaciones sobre relaciones sanas y sobre como el abuso nos afecta a nosotras, a nuestras familias y a nuestra comunidad.
¡Y mucho mas!

PARA MAS INFORMACION
y obtener nuestra dirección confidencial favor de llamar a Daniela al: 604.687.1868 ext. 316 o por email:
daniela@bwss.org

Este grupo es para mujeres que sufren o que han sufrido en el pasado de abuso emocional, físico sexual o económico.

Se proveera un refrigerio y ayuda para transporte.

Descargar cartel Grupo para Mujeres Latino Americanas aquí.

Latin American Women’s Support Group

Every Monday 2 pm – 4 pm

This group will offer:

A space for the participants to share their experiences and find support.
Guidance for participants to develop their self-esteem towards independence and empowerment.

Conversations about healthy relationships and information about how abuse affects us, our families and communities.

And much more!

FOR MORE INFORMATION
please contact Daniela at 604.687.1868 ext. 316 or by email daniela@bwss.org

This group is for Spanish speaking women who are experiencing or have experienced emotional, physical, sexual and/or financial abuse in their relationships.
Snacks and assistance with bus tickets will be available.

Download the poster here

To learn more about BWSS support groups, please visit this page.

Intrinsic to women’s empowerment, support groups at BWSS are made possible with the financial contributions from people like you.

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Women’s Safety and Outreach Program

After a successful pilot project, Battered Women’s Support Services Women’s Safety and Outreach Program (WSOP) re-launched on Monday, March 31st, 2014. We thank you for your ongoing support during this period of reflection and restructuring.

We continue to seek to end violence against women and girls in the Downtown Eastside, Vancouver Community, Coast Salish Territory, by providing:

1) Education and Awareness Outreach: We seek to shift the culture of violence against women in the Downtown Eastside  Vancouver community through education and awareness. Trained staff and volunteers are equipped to provide information to the many single room occupancies (SROs), shelters, front line service providers, and organizations to raise awareness of the dynamics of sexual and physical assault, program hours, and services available for women and girls. Specific outreach to SROs will be undertaken to increase program accessibility for women who do not access mainstream services during mainstream hours.  The program is inclusive of self-identified women, young women, Indigenous women, seniors, Immigrant women, and women who do sex work and of particular importance for Indigenous women, we are equipped to deliver services that are culturally appropriate.

2) Mobile Crisis Response: Trained staff and volunteers provide a mobile crisis intervention for women survivors of assault and sexual assault and/or abuse through

  • Crisis intervention and support- risk assessment, safety planning with a biopsychosocial, women-centered approach
  • Emotional support
  • Support with injuries sustained- accompaniment to hospital, medical services, sexual assault services
  • Transportation for women fleeing violence to housing (transition, shelter)
  • Response is inclusive of harm reduction supplies such as condoms, personal care items
  • Response and services accessible through a dedicated mobile number
  • Resource referral
  • Advocacy

3) Follow –up: WSOP is relational to reduce the isolation through encouraging ongoing contact with BWSS and the anchoring of supports with other community organizations. The inclusion of an office space allows for immediate daytime follow-up on an outreach basis, if required.  In addition, anti-violence services such as Stopping the Violence counseling and support groups will be offered at the location.

Our collaborations will continue with community organizations to include cross referrals, education, awareness, outreach, and access to office and/or interview space. It is crucial to understand the complexity of the experiences women and girls are navigating in and how offering services is a huge part of women’s empowerment.

Our Women’s Safety and Outreach Program operates on Monday – Friday from 5pm to 1am. Please share below Program’s poster widely.

 

 

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You can download the poster here.

If you could do something to end violence against girls and women, wouldn’t you?

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